Suddenly thoughts came to my mind as I read through this girl's blog who just got rather famous in the online shopping world. Her pics depict her having an awesome life with her bf in almost every entry possible. It set me thinking about mine.
Many people have boyfriends who are either just still studying, just graduated, or employed under other companies. They have the luxury of giving time up to spend together with the gf. Working is never easy and its there to haunt you daily, but work is the only thing that supports our living. Facing the fact, without money in today's world, you won't survive.
So back to topic, when you are working, you tend to only handle the stress from workload handed down to you and maybe office politics. But what happens when you choose to carve out your own career path? What if you choose to do businesses and make your own living? What if your boyfriend choose the latter? Carving out his own career instead of being employed? Doing your job,handling your stress from job and just collect paycheck at the end monthly, isn't that good and contended enough in life? Well, some people just think differently :)
So is my boyfriend. Knowing him throughout these 7 years,seeing how things change, from him being a student, graduated, employed and now carving his own career, I'm really so proud of him :) I'm selfish and naive, always comparing my love life with my friends.
But his words set me thinking. Other couples' boyfriends are mostly employed under some company, thus naturally they have more time to spend on family and loved ones. But for mine, he's different. His stress does not come from just his career alone, but he has to think of people who are employed under him. If he stop, who is going to fork out the salary for those employees? They all have their families to support. And with a diversified career path, he has tripled or even more times the normal stress of a company's boss.
With that, I feel ashamed of myself. I was selfish enough to only think about him giving me more time, spending more quality time together as a couple. I never once put my shoes in his and view from the bigger picture. Career aside, I have to think for his employees and their families. He's striving hard with all of them right now, yup we are 2 countries apart and barely could make it through having a full day together once every lets say 2 months or so? How can I ever still complain and just add on to his stress and burden daily?
I have to admit, time between us shorten alot within a year, and I do complain and cry alot over this. But mum once told me this, 'the person you chose is the person you have to accept, be it his flaws or his good points.' I chose him as my boyfriend, I have to learn to face things together with him. I have learnt to think from the bigger picture, and learn to appreciate his mindset on his career and his employees. Life's tough, but we can all pull through it, with just a pinch of optimism and smile it through.
I love him with no doubt, and I have never regretted once him being my boyfriend from the past till now, and I know I will never regret it till the day I die :) Time spent between us maybe shorter, but as long as he's doing what he thinks is right, I will be there behind, trying to catch up to his pace.
Ain't writing to show anyone anything, but just I hope to pen it down to remind me this- Always look into the bigger picture.
Till the next time we meet, I'll always miss you.
